Much Love, Deb Poems ~ Fresh & Thought~Provoking

Let’s Talk About Me Me Me Me

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by

Deborah Marchant’

in Non-conscious death anxiety, relationships

in couples therapy

”Why don’t you get me?”

”Why don’t you get me?”

“Why can’t you do me –

what I want for me –

through you?”

Where’s the hand puppet in you anymore

where i put my hand into you

moving you to speak me?

The threads that held you together

for me

where did they go?

Why aren’t you the go-along do whatever I want

hand puppet anymore?

Did me no good to play you?

My Puppet Shows I played with your life,

I used you to live out

my own more significant life.

©️ March 2025 Much Love, Deb Poems

This poem is inspired by the documentary show with episodes called “Couples Therapy” https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10665386/

abuse in childhood addiction to pornography Admit vulnerability anger is an expression of grief Anger over unfairness of going to die arguments arrogance Ashamed attacking wrong target Bad boss Be honest with yourself be your hero benefit of gratitude Benefit of well developed forebrain Benefits of good talk therapy emphasizing terror management theory TMT betrayal in marriage blame others for your mistakes Bored with boredom Boundaries Challenge each other check self for fallacies Confront death then anything is possible Couple dad shamed you dad-child bond defending status quo demands agreement demands respect demands to be flattered denial of death Destructive reaction to death anxiety Different perspectives disagreeable distort information distorted self-image distractions are a defensive against death anxiety Distrust divorce Do the Shadow Work does not know harm doing domestic violence domineering Dominionism Don’t feel safe don’t gaslight yourself don’t question relationships don’t want to die dysfunctional family Emotional Immaturity Emotional landmine enforcing hierarchy Existential threat expectations family entitlement fear loss of control Fear of human insignificance fear of poverty feel disappointment feel disrespected feel inadequate Feel incompetent Feel insecure feel insignificant Feel neglected Feel unloved feel unloved when not working feeling anger feel more alive feeling bored feeling discontent feeling helpless Feeling humiliated feeling shame feeling unimportant feeling unloved Find Common Ground focusing on negatives friendship gaslighting Get interested in learning something new Get Interested in What is Beneficial Healing Hold self accountable How to solve arguments human insignificance human manipulation humans abuse animals because they non-consciously remind them of how insignificant they are hyper armor hyperviligent incompatible incompetent parents Infidelity Lack of empathy learn to think for yourself using disciplined thought Listen to wisdom looking to be offended male entitlement Marriage mental projection missing out on a full human life mom shamed you much a do about nothing narcissism Need to be flattered need to be needed to feel significant need to feel special Needs to be center of attention not taking empathetic thinking seriously Not taking fair-mindedness seriously numb feeling of insignificance Objectification Over ambitious non-conscious reaction to feeling insignificant over reaction overly controlling paranoia paranoid paranoid brain parent-child bond parenting parents parents can only do so much Partnership privileged-humans PTSD puppet master Question feelings reaction to non-conscious thoughts of human insignificance Rejection Respect rigidity Self absorbed self analyze self entitled self responsiiblity self-serving personal self-interests selfishness shame spoiled stop being submissive and domineering towards others Stuck in a rut superiority attitude Terror Management Theory terror of human insignificance The Foundation for Critical Thinking To get anything done must do it myself traumatized trigger each other’s death anxiety unhappy unhealthy perfectionism Victim Mentality why feel discontent

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